May 21, 2013
"Mimi"
In my opinion she's a very good example of the
old adage, 'there's a fine line between
genius and insanity.'
She is one of the most gifted people I've ever
met… focused and extremely capable of great things when she wants to be. Like some of us though (me included), the
voices in her head tend to distract her and she gets sidetracked and goes in
unproductive directions. I used to tell
her that if she went towards the light, instead of the dark, that she would get
everything she ever wanted.
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Mimi pulled her car into the handicap lot…
parked right up against the curb in the red zone… opened up all her car doors…
and turned up her stereo… all the way.
She then proceeded to start 'rocking out' and
dancing like a mad woman. Yep, Mimi is
shy and demure, just like me. I just had
to laugh out loud, when I joined her.
The parents and other family and friends of the graduates really got a
taste of life from the outlandish parents of the most loved graduate at the
facility. I took off my shirt (again)
and started waving it in circles over my head.
It's a typical occurrence when Mimi and I get together in a party
atmosphere. We like being the lives of
it. We feed off each other, and wind
each other up into whirling dervishes.
She has always been able to get me going.
"Ashley"
The reason I took this trip, besides another
opportunity for exploration and adventure on my motorcycle, was to watch my
middle daughter Ashley graduate from College.
She was getting her BA in Social Work from Pacific Lutheran University
in Tacoma, WA.
Ashley and her older sister Kellie are
survivors. From the divorce of their
parents, and from the delinquent attention they received from their
mother. Mimi is doing much better now,
and seems to be relatively recovered from her drug and alcohol abuse… as long
as she stays on her medications.
'Ash' accepted a tennis scholarship out of high
school, but burned herself out. Damn
that cursed Opdyke competitive nature.
Fortunately, she's since learned how to temper her exuberance. She is turning herself into an incredible
person.
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She's turning into a very mature and
well-spoken young woman. I can still see
the twinkle~sparkle in her eyes, that lets me know she's still got her youthful
exuberance, but the way she speaks… with lots of well formed, and very clearly
worded sentences, is very impressive to me.
She's easy to understand except for some of her vocabulary. She speaks like a well-educated
professional. Ask me if I'm proud. Never mind, I'll tell you. I am.
We sat on her couch and talked about all sorts
of things… from her mother, to her sister and brother, to all of her cousins on
my side of the family, and then she expressed sorrow about not knowing a lot of
them very well. Then we talked about the
uncom-fortable topic of how she lost her father at the age of three.
I'm gonna try not to cry while I tell you
this: She apologized to me for being so
distant towards me for so much of her life.
She said she was sorry that she felt unable to be close to me for so
many years.
My heart was breaking as she expressed this
heart felt love for me. When she
finished, I cleared my throat and tried to steady my voice, so I could tell her
that it was not she that should be apologizing.
She's always known the reason I left. I was dying.
After her mom divorced me, I tried to kill myself. I had never failed at something so important
to me before, and I didn't know how to cope with the divorce. Fortunately I failed with my suicide attempt,
and have turned that failure into success.
I knew it was God's way of telling me that my work on this planet was
(and still isn't) complete. I know I
have something important to do. I just
hope I figure out what that is, before I get too much older.
Anyway… the conversation with Ashley about how
she grew up without me was so heart wrenchingly bitter sweet, that words cannot
express how I felt. I do not know why
God has blessed me with three of the best daughters in the world, but… Thank
you God.
"The Best Day Ever ~ Sunriver & Surrounding Areas"
This very seriously was… one of the best days
of my life. Every time I thought that it
couldn't get any better or more beautiful, we came around another corner, and
there was another lake, river, mountain, waterfall, or girl that was more
spectacular than the one we just saw.
This area is truly God's country.
I've always loved the mountains, and feel very much at home here. Plus, it's a tourist area, so there are a lot
of smiles on the faces of the other people who are also enjoying the experience
of this natural wonderland. Here's the
recap of the day:
6am - Yea… six solid hours of
unconsciousness. I don't think I even
dreamt. Jacques had said that he was
gonna sleep in, so I was pleasantly surprised when I saw his bright eyes and
excited expression of anticipation about our upcoming day ride.
8:45am - Hot tubbed and coffeed… we got on our
bikes and hit the road.
9:00am – After topping off our tanks, we left
Sunriver. Jacques and me… two giddy
young boys, setting out for a day of fun and frolic. Poor Sunriver… it would never be the
same. Not really, this place is full of
giddy young men (and women).
9:45am - Sisters… the town of, for breakfast in
the shadow of The Sisters… the mountain of… a set of 3 peaks named Gloria,
Ruth, and Ann. Kidding. Their names are much more exciting. North, Middle, and South.
11:15am - Sahallie Falls. Wow.
11:25am - Kahoosa Falls. WOW.
The pic that Jacques took of me didn't do the scene justice. With the waterfall in the background and an
almost complete half circle rainbow around my head… we were indeed in the eye
of the rainbow. And we stayed there the
whole day… figuratively. I could fill
two or three pages with words trying to describe my thoughts and feelings that
were (and still are) inside me, about this area, and my blessings to be able to
enjoy it with someone like Jacques. I
love Jacques.
12:30pm - Fuel for our bikes. Jacques had refused to name his bike. He says, "It's not a he or a she… it's
androgynous… sexless, and abstinent."
Poor thing… Honey feels sorry of 'it'.
But she loves 'it' anyway,
because she knows how much I love Jacques, and she is a very loyal and loving
girl.
So, although his scooter doesn't have a name,
he does call it, 'The Praying Mantis,' and
I've come up with a description for Honey.
She's, 'The Silver Lioness.' The Mantis
and the Lioness, out on a daylong
hunt for fun, frivolity, friendship, and the feeble attempts at humorous ways
to word things.
12:45pm - Another incredible vista. Jacques didn't want to take a picture of me
splashing water all over myself, so I took one of him, sitting on his bike
doing what he seems to do about 95% of the time… professing and profounding
about one thing or another. I never knew
there was anyone else in the world who could talk more without stopping to
breathe… besides me.
2:30pm - We had to turn around. The scenic bypass was impassable. Too much snow. It was about 80 degrees, so I rolled around
in it for a while, and left a snow angel (snow devil?) for the next visitor to
admire. Oh, I didn't get the girls'
names, but as we were goofing around a car was going up the hill, so I stepped
in front of it and forced it to stop. I
asked the girls if they wanted to get out and be in a picture with us and the
driver hesitated… and with the most obvious expression of fear that I've eve
seen on anyone's face, said, "Hhmm… no". I did see a little smirk on her face though,
as she squealed off, continuing up the hill.
3:00pm - Cougar Reservoir. Again… words… it would take too many, or
perhaps it's just that there aren't any in existence. Maybe someone who can actually write stories
will visit this place, and be able to describe it. Until then… I hope you keep reading my feeble
attempt at writing a story...
5:15pm - After two or three more stops not
entered in my journal, we stopped in Oakridge for some food. Jacques wanted McDonald's, but I just
couldn't do that, so I asked the gas attendant if he could recommend someplace
in town. He couldn't, but Tippy… a young
pink haired girl jumped out of her truck and strode over to me and told me I needed
to go to 'The Trailhead.' She said,
"It's operated by hippies… you'll like it." How in the heck did she know I was a
hippy? The food was wonderful and the
kids working there were super cool.
Forest the cook and Hillary the waitress, invited me into the little
kitchen to chat with them.
7:30pm - Just south of La Pine… almost home and
Jacques decides he has to pull off the road, so… after he motioned to me that
we were gonna pull off to the right… he turned LEFT… and proceeded to ride down
the wrong side of the road.
There was oncoming traffic so I pulled over to
the right, onto a small shoulder as the two cars behind us almost ran into each
other trying to figure out what the fuck we were doing. It was the only bad thing that happened the
whole day… after riding 341 miles with only about 10 miles to go.
Besides that one goof up, Jacques and I match
up pretty good in our riding personalities, techniques, and abilities. It was as if we'd been riding together for
years.
We spent probably 50 miles of our ride… side by
side on the two lane highways… going 60~80 mph… our handlebars only 2 feet
apart, or less. In fact, about three or
four times, we'd actually be holding hands.
Jacques' Mantis has a cruise control so he can take his hand off the
throttle. It was so cute… two guys
riding down the road on their motorcycles holding hands. Awww.
8:00pm - Our last stop of the day was to buy
supplies for dinner at the Sunriver Grocery Store, the same place we made our
first stop, earlier that morning.
8:30pm - Home… 11 hours 45 minutes and 351
miles. It was in all seriousness, one of
the best days of my life.
"Jaques & Lovely"
Arrived at Jacques and Lovely's lovely
abode. They live in a park like
setting. Very thick forest as far as the
eye can see in every direction. That
whole stretch of Hwy 97 all the way from Weed was nothing but thick
forest. Pines and Firs mostly. I'll find out what other types from Jacques
later. He's very handy to have around if
you have a question. He knows everything
about everything. And unlike some
people… he is not shy about expressing his massive array of knowledge.
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After being in Jacques and Lovely's home for only a few hours yesterday, I had told them both about my fear of meeting them. I thought there could be two things that could happen. Either (a) our personalities wouldn't match and it would be awkward or uncomfortable, or (b) we would hit if off instantly and be close friends, as if we'd known each other forever. Even though Jacques and I had grown up together as children in the same small town… we had never actually gotten to know each other until now.
Well… it was fear (b) that was realized. Jacques and Lovely are two of the kindest, warmest, generous, funny, etc. persons I've ever met. I love them so very much, there are tears welling in my eyes.
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When Jacques and I got home from our day ride,
we found a raging woman in our midst.
Somehow she had gotten the impression from Jacques that we were gonna be
home three hours earlier. Bless her
heart… her feelings were hurt.
Sometimes people get melancholy and quiet when
their feelings are hurt. That's the way
I usually am. Lovely however, has the
personality of a tigress. She wasn't
quiet or melancholy about her disappointment.
She was actually quite verbally loud about expressing her feelings.
I could sense the intensity and importance of
what she was saying, but I couldn't help but have to fight back a little smile,
when I also sensed it was mostly a venting process. She needed to purge herself of the negative
energy in her system. I love Lovely…
even while (or maybe because of) the passionate tirade that she performed for us…
it was very endearing to me.
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Side note:
Jacques does circus tricks on his bike. While riding thru downtown Bend, he went from
standing up… to sitting behind his back rest… to laying his legs over the tops
of his handlebars… to standing on the top of his seat on one leg, while he
raised the other leg behind him, horizontal to the ground. The guy is a freaking monkey boy. And besides riding insanely too fast around
blind corners, is a pretty darn good rider.
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